Memories Shared

What does it mean to transform grief?

Read an interesting interview with Lyn Prashant, a grief counselor with over 24 years experience, as she discusses what it means to transform grief, turning it into something that’s “workable.” Not making us better, but helping us to work through the pain. Giving us hope.

Memorial prompt – space

Today is the anniversary of humankind’s first landing on the moon in 1969.

Was your loved one alive then? What did he or she feel about space travel?

Today is a great day to remember someone you love.

Memorial prompt – movies

In 1975, Sony released the Betamax videocassette recorder, selling it for $995.

Did your loved one record home movies? What’s the funniest event from a home movie captured about them?

Today is a great day to remember, and smile.

Memorial prompts – work and play

Today is:

  • National Leave the Office Earlier Day
  • Say Something Nice Day

In history:

  • In 1938, Superman made his debut in the June issue of Action Comics #1.
  • 45 years ago, in 1967, the Beatles released Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band.

What do these thoughts bring to mind about your loved one? Today is a great day to remember, and smile.

Memorial prompt – sports?

Today commemorates:

  • The anniversary of the first Indy 500 in 1911. Ray Harroun won with an average speed of 74.6 mph.
  • 30 years ago, in 1982, Baltimore Oriole Cal Ripken took the baseball field and began a consecutive-games-played streak that lasted until Sept 6, 1995.

What was your loved one’s favorite sport to play? Watch? Or were they anti-sports?

Grieving mothers, grieving the loss of a mother

Mothers day is a tough time for many of us, for many reasons, but especially if you are grieving the loss of a mother, or if you are a mother grieving the loss of a child.

Through your memories, over time, by honoring those you love, you can come to find peace in your loss.

Read the story of one woman’s journey through four years of intense grief, and through blogging, coming out and finding strength in her ability to improve the world through remembering her son:

Reclaiming joy-Once drowning inside grieving mom finds strength in honoring her son

Memorial prompts – soldiers and flowers

Today is:

  • El Salvador: Day of the Soldier
  • Children’s Book Week (May 7-13). See www.bookweekonline.com
  • National Stuttering Awareness Week (May 7-13). See www.stutteringhelp.org
  • National Wildflower Week (May 7-13). See www.wildflower.org
  • In 1824, Beethoven’s Ninth Symphony premiered at Vienna, Austria.

What memories of your loved one do these bring to mind? Write it out, and invite otheres to share their memories too.

Memorial prompts – religion, military, and parenting

There are lots of interesting things that happened today in history to help spark our memories:

    • Today is Robert’s Rules Day: 175 th birth anniversary of Henry M. Robert (1837-1923), brigadier general and author of Robert’s Rules of Order (1876).
    • In 1611, the King James Version of the Bible was published.
    • In 1945, Soviet marshal Georgi Zhukov accepted the surrender of Berlin, the German capital.
    • In 2011, Al-Qaeda terrorist leader Osama Bin Laden was killed in a raid conducted by a US Navy SEAL team in Abbottabad, Pakistan.
    • Death anniversary of artist, scientist and inventor Leonardo Da Vinci (1452-1519).
    • Birth anniversary of pediatrician and author Benjamin Spock (1903-98).

What memories do these bring to mind? Was your loved one in the military? A religious person? An artist? A loving parent? Write about what these items bring to mind, and invite others to share their memories too.

Memorial prompts – jobs, childhood, and superheroes

Today is:

    • May Day
    • Executive Coaching Day
    • Mother Goose Day
    • New Home Owner’s Day
    • School Principals’ Day
    • The Anniversary of Batman’s debut in Detective Comics #27 in 1939.

    What do these items bring to your mind about your loved one? Spend a few minutes today remembering and sharing your memories with others.

    My dad always loved a good superhero story. But my mom didn’t care for them so much so he used to go to the movies alone on occasion. I didn’t know about that till I was much older. Too bad, I would have gone with him!

    Memorial prompts – laundry and good causes

    Today is:

    • National Hanging Out Day. See www.laundrylist.org
    • What did your loved one do with their laundry? Was it a love/hate relationship? Were they organized, doing a little every day, or was it sabed until they couldn’t ignore it anymore? What does their laundry tell us about…who they were? :)
    • National High Five Day. See www.nationalhighfiveday.com
    • NH5D is a day to give high-fives to everyone to encourage them to support cancer research. Was your loved one affected by cancer? Would they have given to support this cause if they were still alive today?

    Have you started a memorial blog? Did you write something from these prompts? Please share in the comments below!

    Quotes

    Photographs are precious memories . . . the visual evidence of place and time and relationships . . . ritual talismans for the treasure chest of the heart. — Robert Fulghum, in From Beginning to End

    Grieve not, nor speak of me with tears, but laugh and talk of me as if I were beside you there. — Isla Paschal Richardson

    When a once painful reminder evokes a gentle laugh, when we recognize the joy of the present in an image from the past, we have arrived at an important moment. Those memories are being transformed, unmistakably, into messages of hope. — Molly Fumia, in Safe Passage

    To live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die. — Thomas Campbell

    Memory is a passion no less powerful or pervasive than love. What does it mean to remember? It is to live in more than one world, to prevent the past from fading and to call upon the future to illuminate it. — Elie Wiesel, in All Rivers Run to the Sea: Memoirs

    Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy. — Eskimo Legend

    In love longing
    I listen to the monk's bell.
    I will never forget you
    even for an interval
    Short as those between the bell notes.
    — Izumi Shikibu

    I have only slipped away into the next room, I am I and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way which you always used.... Play, smile, think of me.... All is well. — Henry Scott Holland

    What the heart has once known, it shall never forget. — Author unknown

    Recall as often as you wish; a happy memory never wears out. — Libbie Fudim

    He who has gone, so we but cherish his memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the living man. — Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

    Give sorrow words;
    the grief that does not speak
    Whispers the o'er-fraught heart
    and bids it break.
    — William Shakespeare, in Macbeth, Act IV, Scene III

    The heart hath its own memory, like the mind. And in it are enshrined
    the precious keepsakes, into which is wrought the giver's loving thought.
    — H.W. Longfellow

    Life is eternal; and love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight. — Rossiter W. Raymond

    We do not know the true value of our moments until they have undergone the test of memory. — Georges Duhamel

    While both joy and sorrow are fleeting, and often intertwined, love has the power to overcome both. And love can last forever. — Deb Fulton, in "The Power of Love" from A Second Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul

    In one of the stars, I shall be living.
    In one of them, I shall be laughing.
    And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.
    — Antoine de Saint-Exupery, from The Little Prince

    If I am to wear this mourning cloak, let it be made of the fabric of love, woven by the fine thread of memory. — Molly Fumia, in Safe Passage

    Let the joy of your loved one's life begin to take the place of the hurt and anger of the death. — Darcie D. Sims, Grief Inc.

    Remembering the past makes hoping for the future possible. — Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., Center for Loss

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