Remembrance Letter – More than a condolence letter, the best gift of all
“Yesterday I received in the mail a letter from my uncle (my dad’s brother)…. Eighteen pages of memories, wisdom, advice. This is one of the best gifts I have ever received in my life. So meaningful.”
~ Wendy Russ, Writing Letters of Condolence
The first year after the loss of a loved one is hard – a griever has to deal with birthdays, anniversaries, mother’s or father’s day, and major family holidays that were always spent with that loved one.
At any of these difficult times, your friend or loved one would be grateful to receive a gift showing that others are thinking of their loved one as well. The gift of a letter with your memories is the perfect gift to show that you care.
Perhaps you already wrote a condolence letter or a sympathy note – consider this a follow-up to that note and give it a little more time and thought. There’s no deadline for this letter.
What can you write about?
Look through some photographs or old papers that would help spark some of your memories. Though at first you may feel like you won’t remember a lot of specifics, as you think back, you’ll remember more.
- How did you first meet?
- What did you respect about her?
- What made you laugh?
- What did you observe about her that would be of interest to her family?
- What did you like to do together?
- What did you like to argue about?
- What were some of his favorite things?
- If you could sum up his personality in one word, what would it be? What memories reflect that about him?
This kind of letter doesn’t need to have the same formality of a condolence letter, but the same care should be given to your friends’ feelings. For more information, you can read the following articles: